“When you know yourself, then you will be known, and you will know that you are the sons of the living Father. But if you do not know yourselves, then you are in poverty, and you are poverty.” – Jesus (From The Gospel of Thomas)
So let us accept the fact that nearly all of humanity, including men, are infantile in our understandings psychologically, theocratically, mystically, and spiritually. But a child can grow. In order for a child to grow we have to put away the childish things.
How do we become Authentic Men?
Disconnect from Technology as often as possible. I realize many of us, including myself, rely on technology for communication and as a form of entertainment, but it must never replace our original and organic methods of communication and joy. So we should disconnect whenever we possibly can. Turn off all electronic devices when they are not in use and unplug them from the wall. Go outside more. If you saw a picture online of a beautiful waterfall, then go see it! If you enjoy listening to a band or musical group on Youtube, travel to their next performance and experience their performance live. Pay a visit to a friend and talk to them eye-to-eye and face-to-face. Write more letters to friends. Don’t just text message them. As a matter of fact I highly recommend doing away with text messaging all together. It is one of the most impersonal means of communication ever devised. Our society has become one that no longer values the intimacy and social interaction shared when talking to others face-to-face and the exchanging of energy in our closeness to one another. This vital part of interaction is being replaced by online chat, the pseudo-reality of video games, and the soap opera of social networking sites. The function and purpose of these technological methods of interaction should be understood and appreciated for what they are and certainly utilized in moderation. It is acknowledged and understood that technology is important to help us plug in to the happenings in our world, but it is most vital to not STAY plugged in. Do not allow technology to become the only source of our joy. Life is about experiences. Go and experience everything.
Reconnect to Nature as often as possible. One vital way to discover and stay in touch with the feminine holistic right-brain aspects of our self is to reconnect to our mother, Gaia. Our beautiful Earth! She is a living sentient being with energy and emotions. It is time for us men to communicate with her in a more conscious way. Go out into nature, find a tree to sit beneath, and allow your consciousness to expand with every breath; allow your heart space to open to the energies of nature all around you. Breathe in the life force that supports the planet and allow the edges of your consciousness to become merged with the nature. If you begin this form of communication with Gaia, you are showing her that you appreciate her and that you consider you and her to be one. Over time and a little dedication on your part; nature will begin to communicate with you. This is how the ancient men and women gained their wisdom long ago. Now, at first it may not be in the form of words, but simply in feelings. Gaia is female so she expresses herself predominately through feelings and emotions. Allow your emotional body to open up to her; this may bring emotions from deep within you that may be painful, and unexplainable. Simply allow, she asks nothing more from you. Sit in meditation with nature for as often and as long as possible. Hike into the woods and just be there; exist there in the nowness of the moment. Walk into the ocean waves and become a part of the waters. Go with the Flow.
Research the ancient Goddess Traditions. Study the ancient history of humanity. Go back further than 10,000 years and study the Goddess traditions of the Stellar and Lunar Cults. Understand that, during these Druidic and Amenic ages of our history, there was essentially no human-on-human violence or wars. Communities and spirituality of this period were heavily ecocentric and completely matrifocal. Research into the later Solar and Saturnian Cults, who eventually formed what we now call religion, and discover how they deliberately shaped the fallacy of male superiority, created a male Godhead, and devised the ultimate suppression of the feminine aspects in men and submissivity in women. You’ll likely discover that religion, in general, serves a vital function in the unbalancing of our human society by blaming women for nearly every unfortunate moment in the religious versions of our history. It is vital that we study the true origin and meaning behind these fables that led to the creation of today’s laws and mainstream moralities in order to understand how and why they were deliberately changed and manipulated from the original goddess traditions. See the bottom of this section and my reference page to find materials for further study.
Reconnect to the feminine aspects of our self to create a balance with our masculine side. We must regain sensitivity to our selves and other beings in our world that we’ve been lacking for so long. Some positive methods and ways to do this would certainly be to meditate on a regular basis, practice Tai Chi, write a daily journal, paint or draw a picture, write poetry, read more books instead of watching television or movies, dance often, and sing. Create joy for our self and for others. Listen to what the female side of our brain is saying to us. Gaia herself, the feminine right side of our brain, and the women in our lives have so much they can teach to us. The time is now to listen as true equals, to contemplate, and to then practice what we learn.
Know Thyself. How can we ever know how to Love and treat others if we do not even know how to Love and treat our self? Read and contemplate the great philosophers like Martin Heidegger and Friedrich Nietzche, poets like William Blake, Lao Tsu, and Rainer Maria Rilke, psychologists like Carl Gustav Jung and Erich Fromm, alternative research scholars like Michael Tsarion and Jordan Maxwell, and sages like Jiddu Krishnamurti and Thich Nhat Hanh. These men have laid the groundwork for the attainment of true selfhood. Men must do the necessary inner work first to reach psychological and spiritual sovereignty and to then be of loving service and use to society. The opposite side of the coin is mental slavery. Slaves are what we’ll continue to be if we do not know our selves.
Be Caring, Compassionate, and Patient. These days we are so quick to react in anger or frustration when we feel we’ve been wronged by others. We lash out with words of disrespect, anger, and unkindness when others say something or do things that we don’t agree with or believe in. We, as men, must do our very best to be patient, caring, and forgiving with everyone, especially with our selves. The way to peace and caring is to create a dialog with people, not a conflict. Listen mindfully to everything a person says, even if you completely disagree with it. This doesn’t mean that we must bite our tongue. It simply means that we become deliberately in the moment and mindful of our thoughts and our reactions. Remember to Love all those who stand with us and especially those who stand against us.
Embrace Your Emotions. Remember that there are only two core emotions humans can feel; Fear and Love. Hatred and anger are simply a byproduct of Fear. Understand that if we are feeling anger or hatred of someone, we are, in truth, feeling a fear of them. Do not look at your fears as a threat. Fear is an emotion that should be embraced just as mindfully and as caring as we embrace Love. Accept your fear; do not suppress it. Embrace all of your emotions. Do not repel them or scold your self for feeling them. This material world is a physical manifestation of either the Love or the Fear in our own consciousness. When suppressed fear eventually manifests itself into our material world it becomes anger, hatred, violence, war, and murder against others and our self. What has our world now become? What can we transform it into?
The time is now to discover who you truly are inside and out.
Become an Authentic, Creative, Compassionate, and Caring Man. And pass your wisdom on.
Become who you are.
Resources cited here and references for further study:
Disciples of the Mysterium - Michael Tsarion
Psychic Vampirism – Michael Tsarion
Being and Time – Martin Heidegger
Betrayal of the Self – Arno Gruen
Anatomy of Human Destructiveness – Erich Fromm
Divination and the Goddess Tradition - Michael Tsarion
Freedom From the Known - Jiddu Krishnamurti
Peace is Every Step - Thich Nhat Hanh
Esoteric Agenda - Movie by Ben Stewart
See also my links page for more resource material